How to Deal Pathological Jealousy and Professionalism at Workplace

By Dr. Essa A Djama

We’re all professionals, right? Secure adults with expensive degrees, titles, and impressive resumes that would make most people envious.And yet, that don’t always prevent jealousy in the workplace. Jealousy is a natural human reaction, although not one of our best. We can try to learn to control it and push those evil thoughts out of our head. However, we can’t always stop the ugly green monster from creeping into our thoughts.

This kind of stuff I summarized some few experiences from different institutions whether international ingo’s, humanitarian and government institutions.

Don’t let jealousy take over your thoughts as it takes away room for positive thoughts and ideas. Never lose your own self-assuredness and confidence simply because of a negative emotion trying to eat away at the strong you . When you are aware of the green-eyed monster you’ll be able to keep the emotion from negatively impacting your world.
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.

Jealousy in your workplace can surface in numerous ways including:

  • Another employees ideas are used over yours
  • Clan favoritism between the employees.
  • An associate’s performance seems to be appreciated more than yours
  • Your expected promotion goes to someone else
  • One colleague member became hyper active than other employees.
  • A colleague is rumored to have gotten a big raise
  • You’re skipped over when praise is given out for a job well done
  • Everything seems “easy” for a particular co-worker
  • Your boss or manager shows favoritism to someone.

The list of reasons to feel jealousy in the workplace is endless. Even those with a healthy dose of self-confidence may end up envious of a colleague every now and then.

Here are five ways to deal jealousy at work environment

  References, Sheri Staak, Leadership Expert take control of jealousy at work

  • Get over it.Easier said than done, right? Not really. As a strong, confident WOW leader, you have all the tools at your disposal to simply move on and concentrate on being a WOW. Don’t make your life and career about what others are doing–get over it and get on with achieving your own success.
  • Stop comparing.Keep your goals internally focused. What you accomplish or don’t achieve has nothing to do with what someone else is or isn’t doing. If you constantly gauge your happiness or measure your success by comparing it to those around you, you’ll always be disappointed. As our mothers use to say, “there is always someone better than you.”.in Somali qaykaa gaadh,so stop looking at other people’s achievements and focus on your goals and successes.
  • Show support, not spite. Choose to be happy and supportive when others, especially co-workers and fellow team members, receive accolades or accomplish great things. Instead of being envious, be gracious and genuine about sharing in their success.
  • Redirect the emotion.( Islumi)When jealousy in the workplace flares and you are dealing with it head on, redirect your emotional reaction into positive areas and actions. Instead of letting someone else’s success gets you down, use it to challenge and inspire yourself to improve, work harder, and light a fire of motivation within.(Inspire ur self)
  • Show respect not disrespect. The more you show your teammates respect the more something magical happens. The positive energy pushes out all the negative energy and you will be pleased with how the entire team performs.
  • Positive attitude and altruism, being kind to your co workers whatever their title is very important.


Losing potential quality Professionals from the institution.

Brain drain and temptation for some employees.

Un utilized professionals in outside environment

  Creating and promoting working environment.

Does your organization value and promote competition above collaboration?  If so, it may be time to reassess these values and priorities. Although a moderate amount of friendly competition can have its advantages in inspiring individuals to strive harder to attain a goal, fierce competitiveness can become problematic.Supporting a collaborative work environment among your employees is a better strategy, and one that is beneficial at all levels in the long-term. Collaboration encourages not only an active exchange of ideas and information but, more broadly, it puts the needs of the wider team or whole organization front and center. Collaboration also minimizes potential envy/jealousy among co-workers and in general promotes a healthier work environment.

The main benefits of fostering a collaborative atmosphere include:

  • The Power of Information. The enthusiastic sharing of information in a collaborative team environment leads to more informed  problem solving and higher productivity. When every employee is encouraged to share knowledge, new ideas, and best practices, your organization benefits tremendously. It is advisable and desirable to identify an information-sharing techniques.
  • Don’t underestimate the potency of the valuable concept of synergy or the idea that the output of two or more employees if working together is greater than their individual outputs if working separately on their own.  When your employees are clear on the team or organization’s  goals, and when sharing of efforts and ideas is encouraged, cohesive teams of employees working together can deliver extremely powerful results.

A key foundation to building a collaborative working environment is to start by establish an atmosphere of trust and open communication. Start by hiring people who place cooperation, team working and operating together on tasks high on their lists of priorities.

Finally, don’t forget to recognize and reward exceptional team performance.

A collaborative work environment benefits not only the organization but it also benefits the employee on professional and personal levels. For example, working as part of an active and strong team can help individuals to develop their social skills because effective communication, listening, and the art of negotiation and compromise are essential to a collaborative workplace.  Being part of a successful team in the workplace and making meaningful contributions to the team’s success can also boost an employee’s self-esteem and self-worth. Furthermore, team-oriented working environments allow exemplary leaders to start to emerge more frequently, from Suzanne Updegraff.

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Dr Essa A Djama

MBBS/ M International Health